Why is it that we are so quick to pass out compliments to our best friends, but so slow to give them to ourselves? We are often our own harshest critics, placing expectations on ourselves much higher than we would ever expect from someone else. If we could learn to be as easy going, forgiving, and patient with ourselves as we are with our best friends, there would be a lot less stress and self-doubt in this world. To become your own best friend is to gift yourself with kindness, to compliment yourself, to be forgiving and accepting of all highs and lows of life.
Positive self-talk, to acknowledge yourself, allows you to build your confidence. This does not mean that you need to always be cheery, positive or happy. What it does imply is that when we are faced with a tough day or moment, we know that it will pass. We know that there are better moments ahead, that tomorrow will be a new day. To have confidence in yourself is not to be perfect but instead to be content with the imperfections. Just like we are accepting of our best friends, faults and all.
It might feel a little silly, but I challenge you to give yourself a compliment. A real and genuine compliment. Building self-confidence comes from within, learning to be your own best friend. If you wish to take the exercise even further, I suggest you take a few minutes to write down on paper a description of yourself, written from your best friend’s perspective. How would your best friend describe you? What do they admire about you?
Its about time we love ourselves the way we love our best friends! Scream it from the roof tops!
Namaste, Coach Susie